Wednesday, August 29, 2012

I Learned to Hate: Guest post by Jaime Wright


I'm thrilled to have the talented and coffee-crazed (and not ashamed to admit that) Jaime Wright with me today! Mostly you see the silly and sarcastic side of Jaime and it's a beautiful thing, but Jaime's deep spiritual insight always messes with my mind and leaves me wanting more. (Is that stalker-ish?) She inspires me and encourages me and today, I hope you'll feel the same! Take it away, Jaime.

I have learned to hate.

Hate is a driving force that spurs me to action, opinion, and determination. Weirded out yet? Yeah. I guess that’s not your typical opening statement for a devotional. .But hate — in the correct context — can make a lot of sense.

Paul the Apostle stated it best when he said: “For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate.” (Romans 7:15 ESV)

I do the very thing that I hate. There is so much of my sinful self that I have come to despise. My impatience is one of them. When I have projects to complete, I become driven — focused — and my two year old suffers. The other night she was following me close on my heels, like a needy little puppy dog. I turned and snapped “go watch Bubbleguppies!”
Like really — what kid doesn’t want their mother to tell them to watch TV? The look in her big baby blues just about killed me. Sadness. Mommy didn’t want her help, or her prancing on tiptoes singing, “I may never march in the infary, toot in the tootery”. Mommy was too busy. She hung her head and without question returned to her banishment on the couch and the cheerful cartoons went over her head as she buried her face in her Blanky.

I have come to hate the darkness inside of me.

“For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out.” (Romans 7:18 ESV)

As humanity, we have formed a culture that fights for the right to act on our fleshly impulses. But as Paul defines, those impulses are “nothing good”. Strangely enough, in our fight for human rights, we have also fought for the right to damage, wound, impale, break, and scar those around us. For sin does not only affect ourselves. It does not only affect our relationship to God. It touches others in a rippling effect of pain.

“I have the desire to do what is right…” — I do. I really do. “…but not the ability to carry it out.” Failure. Morbid utter condemnation.

“Wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death?  Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord!” (Romans 7:24-25a ESV)

I stared at my daughter while I was consumed with hatred for the sin inside of me that caused me to selfishly snap at my child, wounding her spirit of joy and creating even a smidgeon of doubt that I wanted her presence in my life.

“Are you mad at Mommy, honey?”

She nodded.

“I’m sorry.” I whispered it. She turned and her cheeks stretched into a smile. Sitting up, she patted my knee with all the motherly love she could muster.

“It’s o-tay, Mommy.”

She understood. Why? Because she’s already been there too. In her own tiny sinful self, she knows what it’s like to wound. She knows what it’s like to ask forgiveness.
Thanks be to God … to Jesus Christ our Lord … for in and of myself, I will continue to wound, to scar, to walk in darkness. But in Jesus, I find life, healing, strength, and the ability to claim His victory over my sinful self.

I have learned to love. I have learned to love life — and the righteousness found therein.

What have you learned to hate about your old nature and/or what new character has God recently taught you?

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11 comments:

  1. I have come to hate my mouth more and more. Just yesterday I blurted out some snarky comment at work, making me look like an ungrateful fool. I apologized as soon as the words left my mouth, but hate the fact that they slipped out so easily. Sigh...God is still working on me.

    Great post!!! One that I needed.

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  2. Awesome, awesome stuff! That chapter in Romans where Paul talks about not doing what he wants to do and doing what he doesn't want to do...it's one of my favorites. Because I'm so with him there. I hate that sometimes my mind immediately thinks the worst of someone. Or that I allow stupid thoughts to eat up my brain. I want to be endlessly kind and always positive, but it's so not easy. Like Sherrinda said, God's still working on me!

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  3. This is what drives me batty about some Christians in the current climate. It's seems so easy for them to point fingers. I'm thinking who the heck has time. I'm a mess. I need to focus on this piece of goat crap inside me before I stab my finger at others. Okay, that's all from me today. When I start writing goat crap we know we've reached a deep place. ;-)
    ~ Wendy

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  4. Two of my favorite women in the same place. I love it. Wonderful post!

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  5. Great post, Jaime, I can so relate. Who will save us from this body of death? I can't wait for eternity in heaven when our sinful tendencies will seem like nothing more than a bad dream. Thanks for sharing your heart. :-)

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  6. Love, love, love this!! Soooooo good.

    I hate, hate, hate the impatience and worry inside of me. No matter how hard I try, I still struggle. Wonder if I always will.

    I love your thoughts here. Absolutely love your honesty too.

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  7. I can so relate to feeling driven to get something done. Oh and the impatience. :) Beautiful post and analogy. Thanks, Jamie (and Jessica)!

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  8. Loved your truthful heart here, Jaime.

    I hate impatience too. We all have those moments. Thank God, yes, thank you God, we are forgiven.

    Thanks Jaime and Jess! Wonderful, inspiring read today.

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  9. I hate how negative and bitter I can get sometimes. They are bad thinking patterns that I fall into upon occasion when things don't go well. Deep down I know my time would be better spent in prayer and focusing on the positive, but what do I do instead, lol? Great post today, Jessica and Jaime!

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  10. You had me from the word "hate", Jamie. I've never seen Paul's passage in that light before. Thanks so much for that great food for thought!

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  11. Oh, Jessica and Jaime,

    Your conversation today is spot on for so many of us. I think we MUST come to a point where we actually hate something in order to change or remove it or even work on it - otherwise it's too easy to "get comfortable" with it and compromise.

    I totally relate to this: "I stared at my daughter while I was consumed with hatred for the sin inside of me that caused me to selfishly snap at my child, wounding her spirit of joy and creating even a smidgeon of doubt that I wanted her presence in my life." I home-school our 5th grader and I'm NOT gifted as a teacher. I love being a mother, but when it comes to school, this ugly thing inside of me rears it's head and gnashes its terrible teeth and shows its terrible claws... and I hate the carnage that follows. I hate it. We pray about it every morning - putting on the armor of God - but it's a daily battle. Daily.

    Thanks for the reminder.

    Blessings,
    Becky

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